My friend Peggy posted this query on her Facebook page: What do you think it means to be "the heart of your home"? I surprised myself with how quickly and pointedly I responded:
Being the heart of the home is being the one to bear the sufferings and pains of the family, while holding them up and supporting them. But (LUCKILY) it is also being the one to bear the joys and triumphs! It is the job of every Mama. Sometimes there are crises that call for our immediate attention and support. At times like these, we can rely on the strength that we build up along the way; we fortify ourselves when our load is light! Daddies can also be the heart of the home--for the Mama, and with the Mama (two hearts as one for the kiddos)!
Sometimes I think my job as a Mama is just too hard. Sometimes I feel like going on a LONG sabbatical. Sometimes I feel like quitting altogether. I wonder if my husband sometimes feels the same way about his job as Daddy. Surely, he must--I mean, seriously, parenting is the most exhausting job in the universe!
As I contemplate my exhaustion, I find my way to fortification. I realize that I have to be careful not to sprint through this marathon of earthly life. I visualize the small, round faces of my children with shining smiles and sparkling eyes, looking to me for guidance and compassion...I remember my sweet husband lauding my efforts at building up the character of each of our children (while also doing the laundry and grocery shopping and dealing with the day-to-day drama that comes with having three children from teenager to toddler)...I reflect on the Holy Family and the example that they set for me to practice gratitude, patience, and love...I think about God--the Big Guy Himself--who is, of course, the greatest example of how to really be the heart of the home. He makes it clear that there is great sorrow, but also great joy. There is great sacrifice, but also great peace. There may be conflict and hostility, but also great LOVE--always LOVE--the lifeblood that keeps the beat strong.
Fortification, indeed.
So, I sigh and say a prayer, and jump back into my work...my family needs me...
I am sighing with you... somewhat out of exasperation, but also because I know you're right. It is hard sometimes to be in this role. Heart of the Home. I think here, we take turns. But what to do when everyone is out of sync and life as a whole is topsy turvy!? Well... I am glad and very lucky to have you to help me see past the fog I sometimes find myself sucked into some days. Thank God for you and your wisdom. Love you....
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